You’ll see someone at the gym or a nightclub, your eyes will look, someone will nervously come over and strike up a conversation, but unlike all of those other failed attempts by other men to this guy will be just the right amount of confident and humble. After that, you’ll exchange numbers and slowly but surely after a couple of dates you’ll get together.
The first month is exciting! You can’t get enough of each other! Wow, he’s so funny, he’s not like those other guys, and you just find yourself spending more time at his place. Around the end of the second month is when things to start to feel like they’re coming to a screeching halt. You realize that his place is always a mess and that he expects you to clean up. He’s not really funny.
Around the end of the second month is when things to start to feel like they’re coming to a screeching halt. You realize that his place is always a mess and that he expects you to clean up. He uses his sense of humor to avoid ever getting into real discussions.
Red flags are flying wildly through the air left and right.
You’re talking to your friends and saying, “Why do I feel like this always happens?”.
The Love Drug
Love is definitely a drug, your body has one mission and it’s an age-old biological imperative, that mission is to have babies. Lots of babies, preferably. When you meet someone and that initial attraction kicks into full gear your body/brain put on some major blinders. You get complete tunnel vision for your new beau. There are chemicals like endorphins and oxytocin just flooding your system everytime you’re with them telling you that need that person. So inevitably you fall and you fall hard.
So inevitably you fall and you fall hard. It isn’t your fault. Your body set you up from the very beginning.
But, attraction alone isn’t enough to sustain you. Afer all of the frantic dry humping is said and done you start to feel that old familiar itch.Your fear of commitment and fear of settling kicks in and you can’t shake the feeling that you’re about to commit an erroneous mistake the size the world has never seen before! The difference between a 3-5 long month relationship and one that lasts is
The difference between a 3-5 long month relationship and one that lasts is that despite your body trying to self-sabotage you those people were smart enough to know that you need to pace yourself! You may want to live and breathe your new honey but that kind of thinking is what leads to an early burnout.
People need time to adjust to your quirks and get to know you. What may seem like a deal breaker at two months may not be that big of a deal a few months done the road when you’ve learned how to communicate and talk things through. Overexposure is definitely not your friend
Overexposure is definitely not your friend.
For the sake of longevity try to take a step back and hit the breaks. It’ll help you maintain those necessary and very important boundaries that lead to healthy gradual growth. Slow and steady wins the race and makes it to an anniversary.
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